Acknowledging Fear Helps to Live Through It
There are moments in my life when everything seems to be going perfectly well. When all that seemed bad in the past doesn’t anymore and the simple act of getting out of bed to start the day brings joy. It is moments like these, though, that also bring the most anguish.
It is in these bright times that I get the feeling that the other shoe is about to drop—that if all is well, all will eventually be bad. When both my husband and I are in the greatest of moods and he’s the most cheerful he can be on his way to work, if I don’t hear from him for a while, my brain immediately goes into story-formation-mode and starts imagining the worst. It’s during these times that I notice myself getting paralyzed with fear, and as much as I try to push it away, it lingers because it knows that’s my weak point.
Watching a few of Brene Brown’s many interviews I learned that we must learn to FEEL the fear, feel whatever we want to get rid of and acknowledge the sensations it brings to us.
I put this lesson into practice, letting the thoughts flow through my mind and feeling the fear through my body, and this helped me understand why the fear exists.
We all have different worst case scenarios in our lives—mine is the potential death of a loved one, having lived through the death of two close family members already. That is inevitable, so I learned that I have to live life in the present moment without regrets or leaving anything unsaid. I imagine, and hope, that in doing this the death of a loved one will be but the tiniest less painful.
With much love and gratitude,