SHOULD vs. MUST—Living Life on Your Terms
There seems to be a flow to life: when we follow our intuition and do what our heart—not our head—tells us is the right thing to do, life seems to move in a smooth, forward direction. Why is it that so many of us do the opposite and take the path with most resistance?
All of my life I let myself be guided by a certain set of rules, stressed out with what society said I SHOULD do—get married, buy a house, have a baby—but deep down I knew I’d rather live on my terms in what made me happy. For me, that was pursuing a creative career, traveling around the world, loving and letting myself be loved without the bonds of a religious marriage.
While it’s hard to separate yourself from social impositions, it’s not impossible. If getting married or buying a house in your 30s is not meant for you, well, then accept that and live with the freedom to adventure around the world on your terms. If buying a house in your 50s is, then go for it—you’ve probably travelled a long journey and are finally able to settle into a well-built life.
Although it was a long internal struggle to let go of the preconditioned mind-set set by my familial values, with tenacity, I’ve started to lead the life I long yearned for. Let’s implement a NEW STANDARD for how to live—being ourselves and connecting with others in the process. Follow your heart, be a good person, treat yourself and others with respect, and live a happy life. What MUST happen WILL happen in due time.
With much love and gratitude,